Moderation.

Clearly, Goldilocks was on the hunt for lagom when she busted up into the Three Bears' home in one of the most famous children stories ever. She knew that momma bear's porridge wasn't hot enough... and she knew papa bear's porridge was too hot. Thank goodness baby bear's porridge was spot on!

Like Goldilocks, one of the most challenging things in life is the search for moderation.

In relationships.
In eating.
In feel-good behaviors.
In emotions.

Moderation means that it's okay to engage in things, as long as we find a balance with it and other things in our lives. Relationships are wonderful, but isolating yourself and getting wrapped up in just one person isn't healthy. Eating is good and important, but eating a dozen cupcakes isn't healthy... and on the flip side, eating only celery isn't either. Behaviors like work and exercise are healthy, but doing them to excess isn't. Emotions are very important, but experiencing them in excess can be harmful.

Moderation means no denying yourself, but not over-indulging either. And sometimes, it's admittedly difficult to push the pause button on things that we like. But setting limits and boundaries with ourselves is one of the most important lessons that we can learn in life. Knowing when to say yes, and when to say no, and doing both at the appropriate times.

Not too little, not too much. Just right. Lagom.