Be kind.

You know that voice inside of your head... the one that talks about you? What does it say?

Does it say that you are smart, kind, and important like Aibileen says to Mae Mobley in the most incredible movie, The Help? Does it say that you are a wonderful creation? Does it say that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in life, even when things don't go your way?

Or does it say that you aren't worthy of love? Does it say that you should be more like your best friend, that you should skip lunch today because you're getting fat?


I admit that I've had my fair share of negative self-talk over the years. Comparing myself to other people. Wishing that things in my life were different than they were at the time. Wanting more than I had and not appreciating the fullness of my life. 

But it got me nowhere.
And it doesn't get your anywhere either.

Thinking negatively about your life isn't going to make anything better. It isn't going to change the reality that you are where you are. The only thing that will change your reality is to change your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Because really... how can you expect anyone else to respect you if you don't first respect yourself? Self- acceptance and self-love are CRUCIAL to happiness. The way that we think affects our belief system. Even if others have said mean and hurtful things to or about you, know that it isn't true. It doesn't have to transform into the way that you think about yourself.

If, however, there is indeed something that you don't like about yourself... you don't like an aspect of yourself whether it be physical or a behavior you engage in... consider whether or not the change you want to make is possible or not. If it is possible, change it by setting a goal for yourself. If it isn't possible, it's time to start working toward finding acceptance of that particular situation. Acceptance doesn't mean that we are totally cool with a situation and love being in it. Acceptance means that we're willing to look beyond our flaws and concentrate on the awesome things about ourselves. Trust me, talking down to yourself about it isn't going to work.

I know it's easier said than done.
Change takes time, patience, and practicing of new skills.
It's really not that hard though.
Maybe today you can start.

Be kind.